7 Characteristics Worth Pursuing
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It’s a quiet Saturday morning. You have your coffee, and you’re looking out the window. You’re not thinking about mowing your lawn, or cleaning out the garage—you’re wondering, “Am I becoming the man I always hoped I’d be?”
Here’s the truth: You are becoming someone. The question is, “who?”
Your time, choices, and habits are shaping you. The man you’re becoming will be revealed in the way you love, lead, and live today—and tomorrow.
If you are single — it’s easy to focus on the kind of woman you hope to find… but neglect to become the kind of man you need to be.
If you are married — what kind of husband are you becoming? Are you focusing on the areas you can control and improve?
Here are 7 characteristics of a man worth pursuing:
1️⃣ A man who fears the Lord
Strength doesn’t come from our own sufficiency and ability—it comes from walking in humility before God and with God.
Where are you walking?
Action: write down one area of your life you’ve been keeping in your own control. Consider releasing it to God today.
2️⃣ A man who leads with sacrificial love
It costs to love–personally. Are you giving, protecting, and serving, even when it costs something?
Is everything you do done in this kind of love?
Action: consider doing one thing this week that costs you comfort for someone else’s good
3️⃣ A man of integrity
Who you are when no one is watching is the truly the man you’re becoming.
Who are you and what are you doing when no one watches?
Action: identify one area where your public and private life don’t match, and work to close the gap
4️⃣ A man with self-control
Your words, your anger, your desires—how are they directing you?
Action: ask a close friend, family member or spouse to call you out this week if you lose control in speech, tone, impulse, or attitude
5️⃣ A man who serves and is hospitable
Real strength shows up in the willingness to lift others up and to open the doors of your life and home towards others.
How have you been serving?
Action: invite someone into your life or home this week for no other reason than to bless them
6️⃣ A man who denies himself
Self-denial is not passivity or weakness. It’s rejecting selfish ambition, controlling impulses, living sacrificially, and doing what is good and just.
Who are you living for?
Action: say no to one thing you want this week so that you can say “yes” to something that truly matters
7️⃣ A man who keeps good company
“Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are.”
The people you have around you are shaping you. They are a huge part of your character development.
Which direction are they moving you?
Action: evaluate 1-3 of your closest friendships and the direction they are moving you.
👣 Call to Move Forward
The man you will be in 6 months, 5 years, 10 years—is built by the decisions you make today.
Which one of these 7 stands out to you most right now—and why? drop your answer in the comments below.
References: 📖 Micah 6:8–9, Psalm 1:1–3, 1 Timothy 3:1–7, 1 Corinthians 16:13–14, Matthew 20:26–28, Luke 9:23, Proverbs 20:7
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